family fall 2016

family fall 2016

Monday, March 20, 2017

The book

 


This was taken after I sorted thru my shelf of journals, Bible studies, and self help books. 

There is nothing wrong with these but I found myself continually adding more books to my Amazon cart only to realize I have never read the entire book that most of these were inspired by. I reread "Radical" by David Platt with Jeremy this month for his final module in CLC. At the end Platt provides 5 one year challenges. 

One is reading the Bible in its entirety. I love a good challenge but even more I love the discipline and character it brings about. 

So here's to day 4/365. I'm using this. It's the first one that came up on google. 



Friday, February 3, 2017

"Money, Possessions, and Eternity" book review

I finished my January book "Money, Posessions, and Eternity" by Randy Alcorn plus a bonus book "The Road Back To You" which I reviewed here
 

Practical implications as I read thru Alcorn's book:

- A deep and sincere repentance first to the Lord and then to my spouse for my "hands and mind free" attitude towards money my whole life. 

- A commitment to be "a prudent wife" to Jeremy (Proverbs 19:14) so that he doesn't continue to carry this vital piece of our marriage and family alone. He's over here giving me Econ 101 lessons 😬

-31 days of setting a budget and recording giving, saving, and expenditures (and a commitment to keep going and growing in these areas) 

-Gratitude for a church leadership who is transparent and committed to administer their funds "in order to honor the Lord himself and to show our eagerness to help" - 2 Cor. 8:19

- A challenge to radical, biblical generousity 

- Introduction  of "GIVE, SAVE, SPEND" jars for the girls. 
 

February book is "Seeing With New Eyes" by David Powilson. One of our biblical counselors at work recommended it to me. Has anyone read it? Anyone have any future recommendations for me? 

 

Thursday, February 2, 2017

Special needs parents

Parents of children with special needs. You are loved. I'm on your team and cheering for you daily.

Yesterday, my last patient was a 40 year old man and his mother. He has significant special needs and she has been his primary caretaker and advocate for 40 years. 4-0!! I managed to get out the instruction I needed too but the only thing I really wanted to do was soak up her humility,  wisdom, and warrior mentality. 

She shared a story of how she advocated for hers son's LIFE at a local hospital, standing up to physicians and other medical professionals. She had called her husband saying she may go to jail over it but she was fighting for him. My insides were cheering so loud! 

They came in for a service but I left with renewed strength, courage, admiration, and grit to continue the fight for the children the Lord has entrusted to us in our time here on earth. 

This mother showed no signs of burnout. Granted I was with her for 45 minutes out of the last 40 years. I know there must have been and will be seasons of tears, frustration, asking "why?", isolation from friends, and mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual exhaustion for that momma. 

But yesterday afternoon, you better believe she showed up and fought the good fight for her child and gave him a voice and dignity. 

I only pray that the Lord shows up big in the way I care and advocate for my kids special needs. My flesh is for sure not cut out for it. May I never forget the eternal implications. 

Parents of special needs. I see you. Your battle is not lost on me. 

Saturday, January 28, 2017

The enneagram

For Christmas, my dear friend Hannah gave me this book: 

 


Our small group read it together and have been discussing our "numbers". It has been so life giving and led to many wonderful discussions with friends and family. It has also widened my perspective of how others see the world and helped me be slower to anger and frustration and quicker to offer grace. Not everyone is like me... nor should they be.. novel concept. 

Do you know anything about the enneagram? If so, have you discovered your number? What about the ones you love? It has been fascinating to be able to put myself a little more into my parent's,, children's, friend's, and Jeremy's shoes. Don't guess others numbers. Let them tell you. 

I used this free questionnaire. Often, people will tie in a certain number or need to do more research on their top 3 or so before typing themselves. 

I am a 2 with a 1 wing 😀 so when my kids decide they don't need me anymore, let me do something for you 😬 I kid, I kid (kinda)

"Who am I if I'm not needed?"

Jesus has me wrestling with this identity question of course. 




Saturday, January 14, 2017

Self-regulation

Between the holidays and doctors appointments, we have had some high stimulation, intense moments over the last month. 

I have watched my girls flip upside down on couches and hang over my lap. They have intentionally  isolated themselves at times and craved our laps. 

These forms of self-regulation are not limited to vulnerable children or even children.  I do yoga as much as I can these days in attempt to regulate myself. 

 




BUT... 4 years ago, they had very little idea how to regulate themselves and were dependent on us to help and protect them from over stimulation. 

We would have meltdowns lasting multiple hours. Even when we knew they were safe, they did not "feel safe". Department stores, loud noises, strong scents,  large family gatherings, meal times and parties are common triggers. 

When you are caring for a vulnerable child or love a person who is highly sensitive (pronounced responses to stimuli regarding any of the 5 senses), helping them learn to avoid triggers and coping strategies will serve you well.  

As a parent, my gut reaction is to have them sit down and be still, look everyone in the eye when they are talking, and stay in the middle of the party. This does not help them and will often lead to melt downs then or later and draw more attention than the coping behaviors. 


Excellent read to understand why self regulation is compromised in children who have endured trauma no matter their age. 
Caught Between the Amygdala and a Hard Place